When we set large goals in our life, it takes a very long time, if not forever, to adjust to the way things actually go. Marriages, family, partnerships, homes, jobs, and hobbies are areas that present themselves with assumptions of long term continuity. Our mind can wrap itself tightly around a plan, and when a situation moves off course, we can be left in a state of shock. I think for many, when a relationship or a career changes, the mental impression of the everlasting quality lingers as if it really happened. I am not just talking about the loss of what one had, but the future part that never actually occurred. The dream was real for sure, but that was never anything more than a strong thought pattern. -Jill Eng, Body Over Mind, a mindful reality check
Jill Eng 