What We Are Doing

Life in Real Time: What We are Doing

Mindful Reality helps with inner validation by showing us that in each moment we are doing all we can do.  It helps us feel OK about how we spend our time.  It addresses the constant nagging that tells us we don’t do things right, or that we don’t do enough; we are affirmed of the falsity of these beliefs through the recognition of our relationship to time as experienced in our physical actions all day long.

We are doing something every second of the day.  In these moments what we are doing is truly the only thing physically possible, once it is happening.  So even if we feel like we can or want to improve the ways in which we do things, or how we spend our time, we can only if we do.  In each consecutive moment, if we aren’t doing what we wish, it’s still the only thing physically possible for that time.  Our minds try to talk us out of this reality.

Mindful Reality is about acknowledging reality over thought; how things actually go is absolute and therefore a stronger truth than how we think things should go.  From this perspective we see that action trumps thought.  It does not matter how each person thinks they get to where they are.  When we view our current activity (which we can do by looking down at our body) what we find is unchangeable (once it is happening), despite how disappointing it may be, because our physical activity is liquid and always changing with the movement of time.

This work helps with self-judgment and the inner voice that tells us we are not managing our lives correctly.  It is specifically based on the clarification and understanding that what we are doing is actually what our body is doing, because our “doings” are just our physical actions in space and time.  Our common day thoughts make us feel like doing is something that somehow occurs outside of our body, or only with our thoughts, when in fact it is always just us moving in real time through our physical activities.

This awareness is a hard look at our life in real time.  Our body is continually transforming from one activity into another as we never disappear, even if we feel like we skip in and out of our day, or our awareness.  We are truly always present in space and time despite how we feel.

It may be frustrating to acknowledge that we cannot do the things we wish we were doing, if we are not.  But this knowledge relieves us of the pressure that we could act differently, or the guilt that we could have acted differently, and tells us that we are not a failure and that we are always doing exactly what we should be doing.  We can never do anything more or other than what our body does, no matter how hard our thoughts try to convince us otherwise.

Book Links:
The Myth of Doing: managing guilt, shame, anxiety, regret and self-judgment Paperback and Kindle: http://www.amazon.com/dp/B01B9OQJUU
Body Over Mind: a mindful reality check: attaining psychological freedom by confronting thought with reality Paperback: http://www.amazon.com/dp/1492776408 Kindle: http://www.amazon.com/dp/B00FQ5D5DI (also available in all other e-format modes)


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